Low self esteem means you have a poor opinion of yourself. You feel that others are better than you are. Having low self esteem can lead to feelings of depression. That’s why you should make every effort to increase your self esteem, to make yourself feel better, and stop depressed feelings. Raising your self esteem can increase feelings of well-being and contentment, as well as increasing your chances of personal success. However, this isn’t always an easy process. Thinking positive thoughts can help, but, if you’re feeling low, it may be hard to think positively. Don’t despair! There are several ways to increase your self esteem. Try these suggestions one at a time and you’ll soon notice a difference. Below, I’m going to give you a few ways to boost your self esteem and confidence.
Know Your Strengths and Focus on Those
Who are you? What are you good at? If you really think about it, there are many things you do well; maybe better than everyone else. How can you describe yourself? Are you a good friend? An awesome mom? Do you cook well? Make a list of all these qualities and achievements. When you add them up, you’ll see that you have lots of good qualities, and you’ve achieved some pretty awesome things. Often, our perception of our self worth is tied to the things we think we lack. Maybe we never went to college, or maybe we see ourselves as unattractive. we tend to compare ourselves to others, but we shouldn’t. Our appearance, our job, our bank balance, or the car we drive, are not who we really are. These are just surface gloss, and not important. Look inside yourself to find the real you. Maybe you’re generous and kind; maybe you love animals. There are so many great qualities you possess if only you’ll acknowledge them and let others see them too. People with low self esteem are often quiet and tend to be shy, not letting others, or even ourselves see the true beauty within.
You need to let your inner self shine, and not be afraid to show you true beauty to the world. We were all created for a purpose, and we are all important and unique. What’s the one area of yourself that you can choose to display? What’s the one thing you’re the most proud of? What do you love to do? Give yourself permission to dwell on this attribute and don’t be afraid to share it with everyone you know.
Stop Focusing on your Faults
We all have faults; everybody does. Not one of us is perfect. Sometimes we tend to dwell on these areas of our lives, making ourselves miserable. Pretty soon, all we can see is these faults, blowing them up to be more that what they really are. Here’s an idea. Write all your perceived faults and bad habits down on paper, then crumple it up and burn it. Writing things down can be therapeutic. We get them out of our mind and onto the page. Suddenly, they don’t seem so bad. You may even laugh at yourself for worrying about things that really aren’t all that important.
Don’t try to be Someone Else
Are there people in your life that you admire? Do you adopt their mannerisms or styles? It’s OK to simply be yourself. You’re unique and special just as you are. Don’t worry about what others expect of you, or try to live your life by their rules. Live life on your own terms and do what you’ve been dreaming about for so long Letting others dictate how you live your life will only make you miserable, and it won’t make them respect you any more. Plus you won’t find the time to do the things you enjoy, or achieve your own goals, which will plummet your self esteem and make you resent them.
Take Baby Steps at First
Every small success will lead to the next, and you’ll soon be taking bigger steps and feeling proud of yourself. Reward yourself each time you achieve even a small goal, and affirm to yourself how special you are for achieving it Every little step is a milestone; every victory will build your self esteem bit by bit each day.
Use the strategies above to become happier and more confident. You’re unique, you’re special and you deserve love, both from others and from yourself.